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A tragedy has occured...

Discussion in 'Memorials' started by Dragonborn, Oct 26, 2012.

  1. Dragonborn

    Dragonborn Hot Topics Subscriber

    Im so sorry about Sabrina!!
    Oh i no it...everyone keeps saying to get another dog, but to be honest i think im going to wait until our new house to get one in Feb. This road i live on has taken countless animal & human lives. And the sad thing is my bf had to scrape up a dead kitty two weeks ago from our drive way..it wasnt our cat but i still felt the pain. And yes its getting easier, today i had the strength to get on here & talk about it... its just her life was so entwined in mine from just making breakfast, to riding in the car...she did everything with me. But someday i know i will love another dog. I have a feeling this time tho, there gonna be the one finding me instead of me looking for them ;) But i did smile today & i am rite now... thank u for ur support!

    RIP Sabrina and Bella <3
     
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  2. Lizzard

    Lizzard Hot Topics Subscriber

    I am so, so, SO sorry you lost your Bella so suddenly. :sorrow:

    Time does heal the pain... but in the interim, that pain really sucks. So just cry and don't feel badly about the tears. Sometimes I still shed them over my past dogs, and they've been gone for years.

    Was Bella your first dog? It is so hard to go through the loss. I find it helpful to think of what a great life you gave your dog and be grateful for all the little joys she brought you in the short time you had together. Remembering those things - like the stick outside your door for you to trip on - will help carry you through the painful times.

    And as far as another dog, well, I thought my family got another dog too quickly after we lost our first one... so maybe someday you will be ready for another furry pal, but don't worry about that until you are ready.

    Run free, Bella...
     
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  3. Dragonborn

    Dragonborn Hot Topics Subscriber

    Yes she was my first one :/ she was my birthday present from my bf last summer... i would always watch videos of dobermans on youtube & say look how beautiful! It took us a couple of months to find her, but i still remember picking her out. Ive had xperience with dobes wen i was younger, my grandparents had one so i wasnt completely new to them, but she was my first dog i 100% trained & lived with every single day... and yes were in nooo rush for another! Except this time i am very adamant on us getting a rescue whether that be puppy or adult or purebred or mutt. I dont really care. Just as long as its not from a breeder, not that theres anything wrong with a breeder, im just ready to save this time. I was actually just looking at a doberman rescue near to me but i cant even look at their eyes without my heart breaking lol oh well...in time!
     
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  4. Ataro

    Ataro Notable member

    I got Ashra almost immediately after putting down my sick puppy this year. She was never intended to replace her, but for me I find it easier to move on and not dwell if there's some sort of distraction. My first ever dog was my heart dog and favourite up until now... every other dog I've had has never even come close to replacing her - she was up so high up there above all the others that they couldn't even dream of touching her.

    Now, I would say, that Ashra is probably the closest to her level and I think such attachment needs time to grow (I had my first dog for 14 years). That's not to say that I don't love every dog I ever had, but some are just exceptionally special and it hurts just that much more when they're no longer around. I still feel extremely sad and reminiscent when I think of my first dog, Goldiey - and she was put down 6 years ago.
     
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  5. Dragonborn

    Dragonborn Hot Topics Subscriber

    Just too young!! Ugh its not fair...i just wish it was something like she got sick or she was too old and i had to put her down..maybe then i wouldnt feel so heartbroken..as i new it was her time..but wat happened to bells, was not fair. It was cruel and tragic. But yes i have a feeling im going to be that way with my kitty Sammy. I never ever thought i would get just so close to my cat, but i no wen its time for him to leave, im going to be so sad. We've had him for five years now & hes my sunshine since bella has gone.

    Im so sorry about goldiey!! My bf had a jack russel for 13 years! And whenever i talk about Molly, his eyes start to well up..and its ben about a year since they had to put her down. But death comes for us all one day, some young, some old. Just always count your blessings & live each day to the fullest. Bcuz u never no wen it could be your last <3
     
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  6. JanS

    JanS DCF Owner Administrative Staff Moderator Hot Topics Subscriber

    I think it would be wonderful if you gave a rescue a great forever home when you're ready.

    When we lost Otis (our GSP) at age 16 it was one of the hardest things we've ever been though, even though we knew his day had to some. Anyway, I just couldn't stand the emptiness in the house without a dog by your side all the time, so we brought Boris home just 3 weeks later. He was quite the handful, so it did distract my grieving thoughts quite a bit, but we still think of Otis every single day and are thankful that he was part of our lives for that long.

    After Boris went so suddenly and unexpectedly I knew that I wasn't ready for another for a while because we had to let things settle in and accept them for what they were. We brought Albert into our lives 8 months later and it was the first time I smiled that much since the loss of Boris. We all know that they won't ever replace our beloved pets who have gone over the bridge, but they sure do help mend the hole in your heart and help you start a new beginning. :love:
     
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  7. Dragonborn

    Dragonborn Hot Topics Subscriber

    Yes..very true Jan.
    I cannot thank everyone enough for these kind words of healing!! You guys have helped me alot!! <33
    Thank you!
     
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  8. Archer

    Archer Moderator Hot Topics Subscriber

    Thanks...you are a sweetie :) Glad to hear you're smiling! You're right, someday you will be able to love another. I like your idea of rescuing...and they do tend to find you when the timing is right. I am a firm believer of the right thing happening at the right time. When you are ready to move on, you will know it. Until then, keep the memory of your sweet Bella close to your heart where she can always be with you :)

    We have all been through it and know how much it hurts. I think it's important for us all to be there for eachother. No one understands losing a pet like a fellow animal lover.
     
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  9. EARL99016

    EARL99016 Goofy Veteran Member Hot Topics Subscriber

    My heart goes out to you at this time...I'm so sorry!!!!

    Cya
     
  10. SandyinKS

    SandyinKS Notable member

    I'm so sorry for your loss. I've not been online and am just now learning of Bella's passing. Hold her memories close and when you are ready, open your heart to another. It may take days/months/years to find your next heart dog.

    I've always had multiple dogs, never less than 3 in the house. It has taken 15 years for me to find my next heart dog, my dobe pup. He actually stepped into my heart w/in 20 minutes of meeting him. He embodies the special characteristics of all my favorite dogs over the years, and yet he is uniquely himself. He is not a replacement or a reminder, but rather a soothing place for my heart to rest (if that makes sense?). I've been out of dog showing for 10 years, and he is the one that may take me back to it!

    A rescue dog will be grateful to find a place in your home and heart, not to replace Bella, but to honor her memory and the love you have for k-9s.
     
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  11. Asteria

    Asteria Formerly Luca & Co Hot Topics Subscriber

    I am SO sorry to hear about this. Before I was in people medicine I worked at an Emergency Vet and I would see stuff like this often. It is so tragic.

    I lost my last boy before his time.

    I don't know if this helps or not but I will share my story with you.

    My boy was only 3. He was a blue male. He weighed in at 127 lbs. Not fat by any means, just a big boy. He was the joy of my life. When we let him out for off the leash fun (We had a 10 acre fenced in place) he would always do a perimeter ruin and come back in.

    During dove hunting and Deer hunting season here we would always catch hunters trying to come over our fence (sometimes tearing it apart to get through) to get their kill. My dad would raise you know what to these people. Well one day my boy came home with a half of a camouflage pants leg. We could only imagine where this came from.....and wonder if the guy on our land that day had got the message.

    Well, I think he did. It was within 24 hours we had to rush my boy to the Emergency vet I worked for. He had been given antifreeze (Did not know that at the time). He did not make it. To this day I still have no idea who did this but I hope they have a special ticket to hell for that.

    It took me 10 years until I ended up with the boy I have now. I had other life changing events that help delay that along the way. You never forget, but you heal a little along the way. I still think about him and wonder how his older years would have been.

    I hope you find some peace with your tragic loss.
     
  12. Heatherjg

    Heatherjg Hot Topics Subscriber

    I am truly sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you.
     
  13. dobex3

    dobex3 Hot Topics Subscriber

    I am sorry to hear of your loss of Bella. Its heartbreaking to lose them anytime, but especially so suddenly and young. My heart goes out to you. I lost my heart dog Charlee at 3.5 to liver disease, one year ago. I still cry for her. My puppy Jax was born on the day she died. Jax is not a replacement, but has helped heal small pieces of my heart.
     
  14. Dragonborn

    Dragonborn Hot Topics Subscriber

    Went and visited bellas grave for the first time today since shes passed. Ive tried, tried & tried to get myself to go down there, and only make it half way till i breakdown & cry. But today, i felt stronger & could actually make it. I sat down on the frozen ground (my butt was frozen!) and talked to her for a little while... i cried a little, but came to the realization that shes somewhere better. I think today im going to go get some flowers & something to show that shes there. Shes already buried somewhere beautiful, right beside the stream where she always loved to play. I still think about her everyday... ill post some pics once i get done decorating it.
     
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  15. Tasha & Boris' Mom

    Tasha & Boris' Mom Hot Topics Subscriber

    Good we would love to see where she is. It is so painful to grieve a sudden accident, Take your time and go at your own pace, give your heart time to heal. I am so sorry you have to go through such a tragedy.
     
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  16. BradysMom

    BradysMom Hot Topics Subscriber

    :eek: OMG what a terrible thing! I'm so sorry for your loss! That :censored: will get it dont u worry!

    I can almost imagine what it feels like, espcially your 1st... one day Brady's dad was taking him for a walk and his collar snapped (it was fastened correctly) and he just ran into the street! When he told me this story my heart came up to my throat until he told me he was ok.

    I'm sure Bella is still by ur side, even if you can't see her. I found this poem...
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  18. MyBuddy

    MyBuddy Moderator Hot Topics Subscriber

    Completely understand. :( I have 2 Dobermans, 1 Pom and 1 cat buried here on our property and I was like you for a long time after each one passed. I would try and walk over there and emotions just got the better of me half way there. It's a tough thing to lose a pet. Real tough.
     
  19. Liberty & Justice

    Liberty & Justice Formerly Sophia's Justice Hot Topics Subscriber

    I'm so very sorry for your loss and cannot express words that may help you at this time. All I know is I'll be devastated for years to come when I loose either of my two, I try not to imagine it, but when posts like this come up it's hard for me not to think about it.
     
  20. Dragonborn

    Dragonborn Hot Topics Subscriber

    Yes it is... never lost a pet b4, so the experience is new to me. But thanks hun :)
     

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