I don't think any of us can completely fool our Dobermans. I have come to believe they can smell our fear underneath our behavior. I do think, however, that they do try to give us some level of "teamwork", for lack of a better word, as if "ok he's really trying so I will try too". I guess I'm saying that it's still really important to the both of you to try

. I also agree don't beat yourself up over the decision to spay. I know it feels awful to go through things with our babies at the time, but they are really forgiving to thier loved ones, and soon she will be back on kilter and you'll have her out doing her favorite things and she will absolutely adore you! Remember I said that the next time I go through something with one of my dogs, though. I will need to hear it then, even though i can say it now.