akarikuragi
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My sister just got a new puppy (non-doberman, some kind of pit terrier mix) and I have been giving her advice on training and such as I want to be a dog trainer and have done just about everything except going through an apprentice program or a school. I have read and watched just about everything I can get my hands on and, for basic problems anyways, I like to think I know what I'm talking about. Of course, I lack a lot of practical experience but I do have some. My sister and I were talking today about her dog's separation anxiety and what she's planning on doing when she and her boyfriend have to go back to work. She's already returned to work (she's a barista at Starbucks, usually working 5-6 hour shifts), and her boyfriend is a software engineer that typically works longer hours (9-10 including his commute).
Her puppy is only 10 weeks old at the moment and she's planning on leaving the puppy in "a puppy-proofed area" when they both have to leave and mentioned how she would never, ever, leave her dog in a crate for hours. I mentioned that she should keep an open mind in case it gets to the point where she needs to crate her dog while they're gone, and that they really should consider doing it anyway for the dog's safety. She said that they would leave her in a safe area where she would be fine unless she figures out how to chew flat wall (which I know dogs are very capable of doing.) She got very upset saying that I'm not a real trainer because I haven't gone to school (which I informed her there is no certification program in America so going to school doesn't really mean anything) and that she's going to follow the advice of the trainers she has read about on the internet. I replied that there are a lot of trainers that do recommend leaving your dog in a crate while you're away so that they don't get into stuff that they shouldn't, and a lot of dogs have died from getting into stuff, but she said "the training world is 50/50 on it so I'll go with what I want."
I understand I probably overstepped my boundaries but I've seen a lot of stories about dogs eating things they shouldn't, destroying property, suffocating in food bags, etc and I'm just worried. I had my own dog die tragically and very suddenly and I really don't want her to ever have to experience that. She insisted that it's okay because lots of people leave their dogs out and they're all fine and I just keep thinking that it's fine until it isn't. When I asked her for links to the trainers she's referencing she sent me links to a separation anxiety article by an spca that states you shouldn't leave a dog with separation anxiety in a crate unless you put the training in to make it a great place for them (which they are), and then two articles about how you shouldn't leave your dog in a crate for 16 hours a day, neither of which go against what I was saying so at the end of the day I don't know where she's getting this from.
So just curious to see what people with more experience living with dogs have to say on the matter. Ultimately she's going to do what she wants to do, it's her dog and I've already told her I won't give unsolicited advice anymore. I was just a bit caught off guard as I felt this was a pretty common thing in the dog world but maybe I'm wrong?
Her puppy is only 10 weeks old at the moment and she's planning on leaving the puppy in "a puppy-proofed area" when they both have to leave and mentioned how she would never, ever, leave her dog in a crate for hours. I mentioned that she should keep an open mind in case it gets to the point where she needs to crate her dog while they're gone, and that they really should consider doing it anyway for the dog's safety. She said that they would leave her in a safe area where she would be fine unless she figures out how to chew flat wall (which I know dogs are very capable of doing.) She got very upset saying that I'm not a real trainer because I haven't gone to school (which I informed her there is no certification program in America so going to school doesn't really mean anything) and that she's going to follow the advice of the trainers she has read about on the internet. I replied that there are a lot of trainers that do recommend leaving your dog in a crate while you're away so that they don't get into stuff that they shouldn't, and a lot of dogs have died from getting into stuff, but she said "the training world is 50/50 on it so I'll go with what I want."
I understand I probably overstepped my boundaries but I've seen a lot of stories about dogs eating things they shouldn't, destroying property, suffocating in food bags, etc and I'm just worried. I had my own dog die tragically and very suddenly and I really don't want her to ever have to experience that. She insisted that it's okay because lots of people leave their dogs out and they're all fine and I just keep thinking that it's fine until it isn't. When I asked her for links to the trainers she's referencing she sent me links to a separation anxiety article by an spca that states you shouldn't leave a dog with separation anxiety in a crate unless you put the training in to make it a great place for them (which they are), and then two articles about how you shouldn't leave your dog in a crate for 16 hours a day, neither of which go against what I was saying so at the end of the day I don't know where she's getting this from.
So just curious to see what people with more experience living with dogs have to say on the matter. Ultimately she's going to do what she wants to do, it's her dog and I've already told her I won't give unsolicited advice anymore. I was just a bit caught off guard as I felt this was a pretty common thing in the dog world but maybe I'm wrong?