Hi, and welcome (if I have not already welcomed you).
I admit I don't have time right now to read all the replies on here, but I did read
@Ravenbird 's and I wish to echo her very well-phrased wisdom: "Almost all wild puppy antics can be controlled by structure and leadership and setting boundaries that are non-negotiable all while inserting obedience training via rewards, play and exercise." ( –
@Ravenbird)
In our household, we are living with firsthand evidence of what the opposite can do. We adopted a mixed breed puppy back in October. This is considered my wife's dog. I already have "my" dog. She wanted this puppy, as did our children of course. Well, my dear wife is almost completely a normie when it comes to dogs. She is like her siblings who just have dogs and maybe they teach the dog sit and that's about it. Aside from that, they just expect the dog to be trouble-free in the background. In the case of many of their dogs, the dog is a little deviant, getting into the trash all the time, grabbing shoes and socks and running around with them, etc. etc. Well, we certainly have a little deviant in our household as well. It certainly does not help that this pup also happens to have what I consider a disorder. He is highly driven to seek out things to get in his mouth, and ingest. It's a miracle we have not had to face thousands of dollars in emergency vet bills yet. I mean, it is far beyond the level of the typical naughty puppy.
While I khow my way around dog training, and have tried, and then backed off, ten tried, then backed off training this pup my wife is not effectively participating. The way she handles the pup works against my training. It has been extremely frustrating for me. So, I have nearly washed my hands of this dog, but it is painful to see my wife get so frustrated when the pup misbehaves for the 100th time. I've tried speaking to my wife, and I have told her this pup needs the NILIF system; but she is a very proud and stubborn woman who will NOT ever do what her husband thinks should be done.
So we, as I said, are living out the evidence that effective, consistent training solves most every problem.