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Hayden went to heaven today

Discussion in 'Memorials' started by Dragonflyz, Oct 20, 2009.

  1. Dragonflyz

    Dragonflyz Member

    My family and I made the decision today to put my sweet, old Mastiff to sleep today. It was a very sad but necessary thing to do. I will miss my sweet neurotic girl.....

    Here is a little history on my girl,

    Hayden came from a BYB who sold Hayden and her litter sister to another BYB here in NY (sight unseen, via the internet by the way) Hayden and her sister were 6 months old when they were flown here from the southwest. The woman claims that when she got the dogs off the plane they were emaciated and had old and new bite wounds on them. She took them to the vet and the vet told here that due to Hayden's mouth defect (huge underbite) she should not be bred. So the woman dropped her off to a rescue.

    The dumb a$$ kept her litter sister and bred the crap out of her!! Poor unstable, genetic defect of a girl!!! (We eventually arrested her for animal Cruelty)

    Anyway, when i adopted Hayden the woman who ran the rescue was a "behaviorist" She claimed that if I socialized Hayden and took my time to desensitize her that she would come around... Well that was BULL$hit!

    When I got Hayden she was 9 months old, emaciated at only 60lbs. She had constant diarrhea for 9 weeks. She got thinner and thinner.The vets had tried everything with no change. We finally tried a change in diet with the help of slippery elm. It worked thank god.

    Hayden attended many OB classes and we tried like hell to help overcome her issues but the damage was done. She was terrified of men, loud noises or any fast movement. She sucked her flank till it was sore, paced and barked when outside. She was most comfortable in her crate. Even if given a choice she would go lay in her crate. Unfortunately Hayden never overcame her abuse/neglect she suffered. Matter of fact as she got older she became more and more neurotic! She was wonderful with other abused dogs. She was a nanny and friend to many neglected animals that came thru my home.

    In the last few years Hayden was diagnosed with HD and IBS. in the last 6 months or so her IBS was getting worse and my vet finally recommended putting her to sleep as she was becoming thinner and her issues were more frequent.

    Please let this be a lesson to anyone thinking about buying a pup from a backyard breeder. It will only lead to heartbreak!!!!!

    Hayden RIP, your belly and hips will no longer hurt and you can now run and play without being afraid


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  2. Apollo

    Apollo Novitiate

    i'm so sorry for your lost and thanks for rescuing her and giving her a very loving home .
    rest in peace Hayden.
  3. BreesMom

    BreesMom Novitiate

    So sorry for your loss. The last kind act we can do for them is the hardest, and even though you are sad and hurting she is pain free and happy. RIP sweet Hayden.
  4. heidi's mom

    heidi's mom Notable member

    sorry for your loss, shes chasing butterflies as we speak
  5. Dobiegirl

    Dobiegirl Novitiate

    Oh I am so sorry to hear this...It is never easy to let them go even tho we know it's for the best for them it's not always the best for us. Know in your heart that you gave her a wonderful life, she is no longer in pain or afraid of anything she is running free and will be till she meets you at the gates......
  6. MyBuddy

    MyBuddy Moderator Hot Topics Subscriber

    I am really saddened by this news. This is always the most difficult decision to make, even when in my heart I know it's time. Sometimes I can't even voice it. It hurts so much. I know she knows that you gave her a wonderful life and she is now running, pain free and happy! We will see them all when our time comes! RIP Hayden!
  7. apbtmom76

    apbtmom76 Guest

    Oh DF, my heart aches for you and Hayden, as everyone ahs said, it is never easy to make that decision and it is always the hardest one we make, but Hayden knows you loved her and will run free at the bridge and be in no more pain or fear anything anymore.

    RIP Hayden, DF my condolences
  8. Michele

    Michele Jr Member

    I'm very sorry for your loss.

    RIP and run free.
  9. JanS

    JanS DCF Owner Administrative Staff Moderator Hot Topics Subscriber

    I'm so sorry for your loss and as the others said, you gave her a great quality of life that she'd never have known if it weren't for you.

    Run free Hayden. Big hugs to you DF. :grouphug:
  10. DobesMom

    DobesMom Member

    Thank you for sharing Haydens story!! I am so sorry you had to let her go, but it was such a loving thing to do. Thank God YOU came into her life & gave her all the love she deserved:coloredhearts: ....that others before you neglected to give.
    Rest in peace , at last, Hayden! You deserve it!!
    Maybe your Hayden & my Hopesie will share some 'war stories' about horrible BYBs & then chew up a toy together....:sad0049:
  11. bentleyshane25

    bentleyshane25 New Member

    God, i cant read things like this without cryin like a baby...im sorry for your loss. Its one of the hardest things in the world to do. Overall i have cried more over pets in my years than at family funerals...i dont know why...it just gets to me. She is in a better place now. And as the tattoo on my chest says....All Dogs Go To Heaven...
  12. DoberDon

    DoberDon Hot Topics Subscriber

    Our daughter in Indy has a 8yr old English Mastiff that's rapidly approaqching the end of his short life.I know she's dreading facing the fact that she'll have to make the responsible choice to end his pain in the near future.
    You made the only decision a truly responsible dog owner can make and I hope you can realise that thru your pain!!
  13. MyBuddy

    MyBuddy Moderator Hot Topics Subscriber

    Some might not think it 'right', but boy you hit that one on the head for me too! I cry a river when I lose a pet!! Mourn for months!
  14. Damasyn

    Damasyn Novitiate

    Awwww...sorry DF...most of us know the heartache of having to put a loved one to sleep. It sounds like you gave her the best home and did everything you could to give her a "normal" life. And what a cute picture ! It sounds like she was a great dog to your family regardless of the way her life started out. ( I love her smile in that pic ! )

    I agree bentlyshane....I cry more over the family pets than I do people. Its because our pets....unconditionally love us...dont hold grudges...they are truly innocent heart and soul. It will be one year on Thanksgiving that I had to make that choice for my girl...and not a week goes by that I dont cry myself silly over her. I love Lexi...but my Tia...RIP was my soul mate dog. Ughhh what a way to start the day...all weepy
  15. DobesMom

    DobesMom Member

    Kim- Glad to know I'm not the only one.
    Bentlyshane- Me too. Like MB & Dam. said it's hard not to mourn the loss ofm our pets. They give so freely. Loving you just simply & WHOLEHEARTEDLY.

    DF- How you doing today? :grouphug:
  16. bucky5

    bucky5 New Member

    How sad. I am so sorry...but thank goodness you gave her a great home and lots of love. There is a reason you were blessed with each other. She is happy and at peace. If you don't mind my asking.....How old was she when you put her to sleep?
  17. Shiraz

    Shiraz Jr Member

    Sorry for your loss :( and thank God for people like you ! You did the best you could for her, despite her mental and physical trauma.
  18. Dragonflyz

    Dragonflyz Member

    Thank you Everyone for your support, sorry I didn't respond right away I was at the Doberman Specialty In NY this weekend. Hayden would have been 8 this dec.
    I am feeling much better today thanks for asking DM ;)
  19. MLR

    MLR Novitiate

    I'm so sorry you had to go through this. It's the hardest decision we ever have to make. Yet, we always wonder if this was the day we should have done it, or if we could have waited a little longer. And it isn't any easier loosing them when they just go on their own. I hope and pray every time that it's the right time. God bless you for taking such good care of her to the end.

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