Kaiser2016
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I must admit…I really don’t think that I’ll ever get over it.
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And just like that, he's gone
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No…you really don’t. You just move on.
I am very lucky to have Freyja and that helps significantly but I still think of Ragnar everyday. I know…pretty absurd and strange, can’t help it. I just do.
I am gonna keep suggesting- you really need to consider getting another. It really really helps. The scar is always there but at least the wound closes and heals.
And that brought fresh tears. And why is that? Probably because you really don't get over it. Is moving on the same thing? I don't know . I think moving on is just a necessity . But you never really get over it. At least not me. I can cry thinking about a dog I lost 40 years ago! I just miss them!
I don't think it is the same thing. I find it opening your heart to new love in a new way but our lost loved ones will always be in our heart.
I think moving on is more like dressing a wound, its still there but you do what you can move forward and live.
Like @Ddski5 said, you dont really ever get over it. The sting becomes less with time, but its always there.
I'd also say bringing a new member in helps, although sometimes the new one reminds you of the loss in some way be it the way they react to something in the same way or how they do some things they do.
Breaks my heart reading this, and so sorry I havent been on more to see sooner He was such a hunk and a looker!
At some point soon I hope you will consider bringing a new boy into your life. We waited several years after Daisy passed in 2016, and in hind sight it was a mistake. Millie being here and being a very different girl was both uplifting and surprising. I knew she wasn't going to be just like Daisy and accepted this, but my oh my there are some similarities.
It really did help us, especially Rocky.
I have had similar experiences about losing dogs and getting new ones. To me, getting a new one never filled the empty room in my heart that the one I lost still occupies. It was more like an addition to my house. Yes Thor, and Zeke and Abigail, you can keep your rooms. But it's time to add on to the house, and make a new room.
My daughters are roughly half my age, but we relate well. I've called them my stupidity filters before, because I ask them about my next big move, so they can call out stupidity in my thinking. I got the opportunity to bring Zastava into my home about 8 months ahead of what I thought i would need to let Thor go. My baby daughter looked at me and said " I don't think Thor would be sitting down right now, thinking you shouldn't find love and happiness " it hit me hard and I called Z's breeder the next day.
THIS: 
you can keep your rooms. But it's time to add on to the house, and make a new room. @Katyusharocket ...I really like this!
you can keep your rooms. But it's time to add on to the house, and make a new room. @Katyusharocket ...I really like this!
You won't! But you will learn to live with it in time.
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